When you have a problem with an adult–say, for example, you have a friend who's always borrowing things and returning them late or broken or not at all–you probably don't think about how you can punish that person. You think about how to respectfully protect yourself. You don't say, "Now that you've given me back my jacket with a stain on it, and broken the side mirror off my car, I'm going to. slap you." That would be assault. Or ". lock you in your room for an hour." That would be imprisonment. Or ". take away your smart phone." That would be theft. You'd probably say something like, "I don't feel comfortable lending you clothes anymore. I get very upset when they come back damaged. And, I can't lend you my car, which I just got repaired. I need to have it in working condition. In fact, I'd appreciate some help with the repair bill!. Joanna Faber
I don't remember who said this, but there really are places in the heart you don't even know exist until you love a child.
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Anne Lamott
Your kids require you most of all to love them for who they are, not to spend your whole time trying to correct them.
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Bill Ayers
That's the nature of being a parent, Sabine has discovered. You'll love your children far more than you ever loved your parents, and -- in the recognition that your own children cannot fathom the depth of your love -- you come to understand the tragic,...
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Ursula Hegi
My father gave me the greatest gift anyone could give another person, he believed in me.
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Jim Valvano
While I was drying off Maddie after her bath tonight, she said, 'I love you' to me for the first time. It sounded like 'All lub boo, ' but I didn't care. To reciprocate, I showed her what an ex- Marine looks like when he...
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Jim Beaver
More Quotes By Joanna Faber
Many children are naturally picky eaters. It may even be genetic, or developmental. But given a range of healthy choices, children will choose a balanced diet–so long as junk food isn't included in the mix. Children are tempted by sweets and fried food just as...
There's a world of difference between, "Look at this mess you made! " and "I don't like to see food on the floor!
The point is that we can't behave right when we don't feel right. And kids can't behave right when they don't feel right. If we don't take care of their feelings first, we have little chance of engaging their cooperation. All we'll have left going...
As for logical consequences, the "logic" is highly debatable. If you continually arrive late for my workshop, despite my warning that lateness is unacceptable, I may find it "logical" to lock you out of my classroom. Or perhaps it would be more "logical" to keep...
Study after study has found that young children who are not constantly ordered around are much more likely to cooperate with simple requests from a parent–for example, cleaning up toys when asked–than children who are micromanaged and controlled much of the time.
